
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12:18
This verse in Romans 12:18 has always been intriguing to me. However, I feel that it is very appropriate to share today since we are just a week out from having celebrated Thanksgiving in the United States and, just a few weeks away from celebrating Christmas and New Year’s. The reason that I feel that this verse is appropriate, especially for this time of year, is because this is the time of year when we are around people that we may never be around any other time of the year, except for these special occasions that we celebrate together as family and friends. This verse is intriguing to me because if you break it down, it’s obviously about living at peace with everyone! But, it doesn’t start out with that declaration. It starts out by saying, if it is possible. And then it says, as much as it depends on you! So is Paul saying that it may not be possible? And is he also saying, but if it is possible, then do everything that you can that is dependent upon you to live at at peace with everyone and for it to actually happen. Therefore, if you can, do everything that you can, that is dependent upon you to live at peace with everyone!
Also notice that he says, everyone! Not just those people that you like or that you get along with naturally, but everyone. That means even those difficult, antagonizing and challenging people in your life. Anyway, part of the equation of living at peace with everyone will be navigating through being offended, being disappointed, being frustrated, mutual disagreements with one another and dealing with strong opinions and condescending comments. And, another part of making it possible and doing everything that you can to live at peace with everyone will be- engaging in loving, constructive conversations, while learning the art of conflict resolution. Conflict Resolution is defined as: a way for two or more parties to find a peaceful solution to a disagreement among themselves. The disagreement may be personal, financial, political, relational or emotional. When a dispute arises, often the best course of action is negotiation to resolve the disagreement. However, this takes love, courage and wisdom to navigate through the process, while coming to a successful and peaceful resolve for everyone involved. So, if it is possible and as much as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone!
Here Are 10 Ways to Know That You Desire Conflict Resolution:
- When you want to resolve the issue of conflict more than you want to prove your point or be right.
- When you want to hear what’s being said- more than you want to be heard.
- When you are more concerned with bringing a resolution to the conflict, than you are with being right or winning the argument.
- When the other person’s need is greater than your ego.
- When you listen, and truly hear what the other person is saying.
- When you’re wrong, and you recognize it.
- When you’re in the wrong and you admit it.
- When you stop saying the wrong thing, at the wrong time, in the wrong way, for the wrong reason just to prove a point.
- When you don’t talk until you have something that is worth hearing.
- When you consider how the other person feels, above how you may be feeling.

