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Mindsets Matter

Mindsets Matter

Throughout Scripture, giants are a recurring theme. They often represent the obstacles standing between God’s people and God’s promises—the blessing, the purpose, and the prize. Time and again, the promise was found on the other side of what God’s people were willing to face, confront, and overcome through faith, courage, and obedience.

Yet in my own life, the greatest giant has not been Goliath or the giants of the Nephilim. The greatest giant I face is the one staring back at me in the mirror.

My biggest battles are not with external enemies but with internal struggles—doubt, fear, insecurity, negative thinking, and limiting beliefs.

I want to talk about mindsets and self-perception, because I do not want the way you see yourself to keep you from stepping into what is next and what God has for your life.

Mindsets matter because mindsets shape futures.

You can have a mindset that says, “I can,” or a mindset that says, “I can’t.”

You can have a mindset that says, “We will,” or one that says, “We won’t.”

It all begins with what you believe and is revealed by how you frame your circumstances.

Proverbs 23:7 says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” In other words, our character, actions, and direction in life are shaped by our thoughts, beliefs, and self-perceptions.

Romans 12:2 says, “Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.”

Your life can change by changing the way you think. And, before God changes our direction, He often changes our thinking.

What Is a Mindset?

A mindset is a set of beliefs, attitudes, and assumptions that shape how a person thinks, interprets experiences, treats others, and responds to challenges.

A mindset is the mental posture you take toward life.

It is the internal lens through which you see yourself, others, and the world around you.

Your mindset influences:

* How you handle setbacks

* How you view success and failure

* How you approach learning and growth

* How you respond to opportunities

* How you relate to others

Simply put, a mindset is also your mental picture of yourself—it is your self-perception.

A mindset is a belief.

For example:

A negative mindset says:

* “That’s just the way I am.”

* “It’s always been that way.”

* “That’s not my thing.”

* “I could never do that.”

A positive mindset says:

* “I can improve.”

* “I can grow.”

* “I can learn.”

* “Things can change.”

* “With God’s help, I can become more.”

If you don’t change what you believe and how you think, things are not going to be different. Nothing changes, until something changes.

The decision to change how you think about yourself, your circumstances, and your future will ultimately determine the “story of your life.”

Remember: you enter every situation mind first.

Nothing changes until your mind changes.

There must be a mindset change before there can be a life change.

The Power of a Mindset

In Numbers 13, God instructed Moses to send twelve spies into the Promised Land. Their assignment was simple: explore the land God had already promised to give them.

After forty days, they returned with two very different reports.

Joshua and Caleb said:

“Let us go up at once and take possession, for we are well able to overcome it.”

Ten other spies looked at the same land, saw the same opportunities, and witnessed the same evidence of God’s promise, yet they came back saying:

“We saw the giants… and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.”

Twelve spies.

One land.

One promise.

But two completely different mindsets.

Ten spies focused on the obstacles.

Two spies focused on God’s ability.

Most people today cannot name the ten spies who said, “We can’t.”

But nearly everyone remembers Joshua and Caleb, the two men who said, “We can.”

I wonder how many opportunities we miss because obstacles appear too large.

I wonder how many blessings we forfeit because fear speaks louder than faith.

I wonder how many doors remain unopened because we allow our self-perception to determine our possibilities.

Because of the mindset of the ten spies, an entire generation wandered in the wilderness for forty years instead of enjoying the Promised Land.

It took only forty days to get Israel out of Egypt, but it took forty years to get Egypt out of Israel.

The real problem was not geography—it was mentality.

The wilderness wasn’t around them; it was within them.

The Grasshopper Mentality

One statement from the spies is particularly fascinating:

“We were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.”

Think about that.

The spies did not have mirrors.

The giants never saw them.

They entered the land secretly and left unnoticed.

The giants never called them grasshoppers.

The spies called themselves grasshoppers.

Their greatest obstacle was not the giants they faced but the image they carried of themselves.

The battle was happening in their minds before it ever reached the battlefield.

What they believed about themselves determined what they believed was possible.

And the same is true for us.

What you choose to believe about yourself, your future, your challenges, and your God will largely determine what you experience in life.

Your mindset will shape your actions.

Your actions will shape your future.

And your future will become your story.

What Will Your Story Be?

What do you want to be remembered for?

Will your story be, “I can’t,” or “I can”?

Will it be, “We won’t,” or “We will”?

Will it be fear or faith?

Excuses or action?

Defeat or determination?

The choice you make today may determine the story you tell tomorrow.

The reason I chose this passage is because I want to see you blessed. I want to see you experience the opportunities, purpose, and potential God has placed before you.

I want you to believe that a different mindset is possible.

A mindset that says:

“I can.”

“I will.”

“With God’s help, I am able.”

Because when you change your thinking, you begin changing your future.

As Romans 12:2 reminds us:

“Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.”

So I leave you with this declaration:

I can, and I will.

Say it with me:

“I can, and I will!”

WHY IS GOOD FRIDAY—GOOD

“He went on a little farther and bowed with his face to the ground, praying, “My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”” Matthew‬ ‭26‬:‭39‬

“But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed.” Isaiah‬ ‭53‬:‭5‬

7 Significant Places Christ
Shed His Precious Blood

“We can plead the Precious Blood over our Past, Present and Future.”

  1. THE GARDEN (Sweat Great Drops of Blood)
    Deals with our WILL—Power to do the right thing.
  2. THE WHIPPING POST (39 Stripes—39 Root Diseases) Deals with our HEALTH—Manifestation for healing.
  3. INTERNAL BLEEDING (Kicked & Bruised)
    Deals with our EMOTIONS—Internal healing.
  4. CROWN OF THORNS (Pierced His Brow)
    Deals with our MIND—Peace of Mind. [Also our eyes, ears and mouth].
  5. HANDS (Were Pierced–[wrists])
    Deals with our PRESENT—What we touch-What we take back.
  6. FEET (Were Pierced-[front leg ankle])
    Deals with our FUTURE—Where we are going. “Everywhere our feet trod.”
  7. SIDE (Was Pierced) Deals with our SALVATION & FULLNESS of JOY—Blood and Water for purification. Sack of Water around the Heart for Fullness of Joy.

That’s Not Who I Am!

When Jesus asked His disciples, “Who do you say that I am?” I believe that He already knew the answer to that question. There is no doubt that He knew who He was. Nonetheless, He asked the question anyway. However, the problem with asking this question is that the answer would be based on people’s assumptions, ideas, perceptions, experiences and a reputation that has been perceived—not necessarily reality, or actuality. Other people’s opinions of Jesus was just that, they were opinions based on perceptions that were concluded by a reputation that had been concluded by their own perceptions.

Assumptions, perceptions and opinions aren’t necessarily reality. However, they definitely can be thought of as such. Jesus in asking the question, knew what others were saying about Him. He knew how others perceived him. Nevertheless, he asked His disciples, “Who do you say that I am.” But the disciples answered with what others said, “Some say that you are John the Baptist, others say Elijah and some say, Jeremiah.” and the Jesus said, “But who do you say that I am?” And of course Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the Living God.”

Jesus answered the Peter was correct and that he was blessed because know what taught him that, but that Jesus Father had revealed that to him. It wasn’t flesh or blood or reasoning or personal perception that had revealed that to Peter—it was God. You see our opinions and perceptions are not as important as what God is saying or what the Holy Spirit is revealing to us. We can have an opinion, but it’s just an opinion. Others can have an opinion, but it’s just an opinion. All of our perceptions and opinions are formulated through many sources and variables.

Jesus knew who he was and he knew who and where he had come from—His Father in heaven. It’s important to know who you are. Not what others say about you, but who you really are. The person you really are, because that’s who God knows and that’s who God loves. The real you! God really knows us and He loves us unconditionally. Have you ever had someone say something about you and you say or think, “That’s not true! That’s not who I am.” Jesus probably thought the same thing, especially when they called Him a blasphemer or Beelzebub.

If we asked God who He says we are He would say that you are forgiven, justified, righteous, redeemed and holy. He would say that you are a new creation in Christ. He would say that you are a work of progress that is continually being shaped in to His image. You see it’s not as important as what others say as it is what you say. Don’t say what God is not saying and don’t always believe what others may say either. What you say and what others say aren’t as important as what God and His word is saying. Our opinions and others opinions are based on perceptions, assumptions and opinions, but what God and His word says is the eternal truth and it is our compass for receiving acceptance and wholeness. Allow God and His word to reveal to you who you are in Him.


Learn, Unlearn and Relearn

Alvin Toffler said: “The illiterate of the future will not be those who can’t read or write. The illiterate of the future will be those who can’t learn, unlearn, and relearn.” Unlearning is perhaps the hardest part of this equation.

Paul said in Philippians 3:12-14: “I don’t mean that I am exactly what God wants me to be. I have not yet reached that goal yet. But, I continue trying to reach it, although I know that I still have a long way to go. Nevertheless, there is one thing that I do: I forget what is in the past and try as hard as I can to reach the goal before me. I keep running hard toward the finish line to get the prize that is mine. I do this by forgetting those things which are behind me, while reaching for those things which are ahead of me.”

Toffler says that the future belongs to those who can:

  • Learn
  • Unlearn 
  • Relearn

However, he goes on to say that unlearning is the probably the most difficult part of this equation. In other words— understanding how it’s going to work now is not going to be possible until we unlearn or “forget” how it has worked in the past. In order to have a conversation of a different future, we must learn, unlearn and relearn. However, we can’t truly relearn, until we first unlearn what doesn’t any longer exist or work.

In life *(emotionally, physically and spiritually) and in business we must develop what I call a forgetful reach. In other words, we must reach forward while forgetting those things that are holding you back, or that are hindering you.

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A Forgetful Reach…

1. Reaches for what matters and forgets about what doesn’t matter.

2. Remembers what needs to be remembered and forgets what needs to be forgotten.

3. Let’s go of what’s behind and reaches for what’s ahead.

4. Focuses on things that will lift you up, not on things that will drag you down.

5. Doesn’t rehearse; what it’s trying to forget.

6. Releases what needs released, so it can receive what needs to be received.

7. Doesn’t just see things the way they are; it sees things they way they can be—different!

Toffler says that the future will belong to those who can learn, unlearn, and relearn. And Paul says that the future is better navigated and experienced when we forget the things of the past that are negative and that hinder us from a brighter future.

Therefore, in order to grow we must—forget the past and those things that no longer work— we must Learn, unlearn and relearn.

Why, What and How

The Why , The What and the How

The “why” is always more important than the “what” or the “how.” However, most of the time we tend to focus on the “what”, more than we do the “why” or the “how.”

As leaders we usually lead with the “what.” We always say this is what we are going to do. This is “how” we are going to do “what” we are going to do and this is what’s going to happen if we don’t do it a certain way or time frame. Nothing wrong with that, but if we’re not careful we can lose sight of the “why.”

We also talk about “how” we’re going to accomplish the “what”, but again, we spend very little time talking about the “why.” Even as people we talk about, “what” I’m going to do. And this is “how” I’m going to do “what” I’m going to do. 

But, we forget the “why.” However, I think if we would lead with and focus on the “why” then the “what” would be accomplished with great pride and purpose. It would be a byproduct of the “how”’and the “why.”

I also believe that if we spent more time focusing on the “why” we would have more peace, value and self-worth. The blessing would be a blessing and not a burden. 

The “why” has formed, founded and driven by guiding principles in the word: do everything as unto to the Lord, and do unto others as you have them do unto you,  and lastly, our guiding principle: let everything that you do, be down in love. In other words, it’s not just about me, it’s about “calling” and “purpose.” It’s about doing things like I would want them to be done if I were personally involved in the equation. And lastly, because I love what I do and I love those that I serve, it will reflect in how I do things. When this happens the “how” and the “what” become a byproduct of the “why.”

The “why” is the most important part of the equation. Don’t allow the “why” to get lost in the “how” and in the “what.” The “why” is what should drive everything that we do and everything that we do should be done in love. Do what you love and love what you do! Why is the why so important? Because the “why” is what will keep you going when you feel like quitting.

INVESTMENT

excerpts from Rick Warren Daily Hope

We can’t be so now focused that we aren’t prepared for the future, but we also can’t be so future focused that we miss the moment and opportunities of today. 

Investment is giving into something now for a return later. Nevertheless, you must invest as much into an existing today as you do into an unknown tomorrow.

Don’t miss today.

Don’t fret over tomorrow.

And, don’t regret over the past. 

Instead… 

LEARN FROM THE PAST.

LIVE IN THE PRESENT.

LAY OUT A PLAN FOR THE FUTURE.

The good thing about the future is that it doesn’t hit us all at once. If you could see every event in your entire life (good and bad) laid out ahead of you, it would no doubt be overwhelming. So maybe that’s why God gives it to us in bite-size, 24-hour segments.

Since God gives you only one day at a time, that’s how he expects you to approach your life. Live it one day at a time, and make it count.

Jesus taught: “Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” (Matthew 6:34 NLT)

Is Jesus actually saying, to stop borrowing trouble. If there’s something happening next week, don’t mess up today by worrying about it?

Worry can’t change the past. It can’t control the future. Worry only makes you miserable today.

God gives you all the grace you need—but just enough for today, every day. He doesn’t stockpile all that power in your life and give it to you for the next week or month. As a matter of fact, He says to pray like this, “Give us this day our daily bread.” (Matthew 6:11 ESV) 

He wants you to take life one day at a time.

When you don’t know what the future holds, you can still take life one day at a time. That’s all you are meant to do!

When everything is uncertain and you don’t know how to make wise decisions for the future, then just take care of today. It’s important to plan, pray, and trust God for the future, but he also expects you to put your energy into making today count too.

A great way to do this is to focus instead on the things that truly matter and the things that God loves and cares about. That’s how you make today count.

God doesn’t want you to worry about tomorrow, but he doesn’t want you to consider it a guarantee either. 

Here’s what Proverbs 27:1 in the MSG says, “Don’t brashly announce what you’re going to do tomorrow; you don’t know the first thing about tomorrow, or what it may hold.” 

When everything else in life seems unclear, this verse is about as clear as you can get.

Plan for tomorrow, but live for today. God will give you everything that you need to be obedient in both.

3 THINGS TO LIVE BY:

  1. LIVE IN THE PRESENT AND MAKE THE MOST OF EVERY MOMENT.
  2. DON’T TAKE LIFE OR YOURSELF TOO SERIOUS.
  3. ALWAYS BE A WORK IN PROGRESS THAT IS ALWAYS GROWING AND EVER LEARNING.

LOVE

Two of the foundations of the Christian faith are: Number one, Christ rose from the dead and number two, Christ died for us.  Christ dying for us points to Gods love. The Bible says that, “God is love.” And love best demonstrated is an action of giving. For God so loved that He gave. We are no more like God, than when we love, care and give. 

Love is seen and demonstrated in so many ways on so many occasions. Valentine’s Day, or as my friend calls it, “Singleness Awareness Day”, is one of them. It symbolizes love and romance, but love is not only an emotion or a feeling, it is also an action and a choice. 

Jesus demonstrated love and revealed God to us. But in John’s gospel chapter 13:34 He says to his disciples, “I give you a new commandment: love one another. Just as I have loved you, you must also love one another.” What’s interesting about this passage is He hasn’t yet demonstrated the ultimate sacrifice of love by dying—He had only demonstrated love by how He lived.

He said that, “I am to love as He loved.” What was He talking about?” He was talking about His deeds, words, attitudes, and actions. He was talking about how He listened, how He lived, how He gave, how He helped, and How He encouraged others. He was talking about how He loved unconditionally and treated people with dignity. We are to love one another as He loved.

  • He blessed and served the poor and sick.
  • He had compassion on the outcasts of society and those in need.
  • He shared his time with people, teaching them, helping them, praying for them, and encouraging them on how they could live.
  • He helped those in need and never let an interruption inconvenience Him.
  • He treated everyone the same and without partiality.

Valentine’s Day is a day where we celebrate love and romance, but at the foundation of our Christian faith is love. We love Him because He first loved us. The Bible declares that we will be known by our love. And Paul said in Corinthians: “Let all that you do be done in love.” Therefore, Love is the foundation of our faith, but it also an action and it is also a choice.

Let’s break this verse down:

Let—to cause, to make happen, to give opportunity to, to allow it to be so.

All—any and every manner, all things and in every manner.

That—the person, thing, or idea that has been indicated or mentioned.

You—second person singular, and individual matter.

Do—to bring to pass or carry out another’s wishes.

Be Done—to become, or to come into existence. To begin to be, or to come to pass and to make happen.

In(with) Love—brotherly love, affection, compassion, good will, kindness, consideration, love, and benevolence.

The New Command that Jesus introduced in this passage in John was, “Love God with all of your heart, strength, soul and mind and your neighbor as yourself.” 

I believe that we will never truly love others until we love ourselves, and we will never truly love ourselves until we know and understand the love of God. That is: the love that He has for us. 

We show love to others by demonstrating respect, showing kindness, having compassion, being understanding, and manifesting goodwill.

“Let all that you do be done in love.” 

Maybe the saying is true: People don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care. Therefore, let’s give love a chance to work in our lives. Remember, we are no more like God than when we love, give and serve. Let’s demonstrate love and allow everything that we do, to be done in love!

what God chooses to use

Sanballat was very angry when he learned that we were rebuilding the wall. He flew into a rage and mocked the Jews, saying in front of his friends and the Samarian army officers, “What does this bunch of poor, feeble Jews think they’re doing? Do they think they can build the wall in a single day by just offering a few sacrifices? Do they actually think they can make something of stones from a rubbish heap—and charred ones at that?”

Tobiah the Ammonite, who was standing beside him, remarked, “That stone wall would collapse if even a fox walked along the top of it!” Nehemiah 4:1-3

When God was talking to Nehemiah about rebuilding the wall of Jerusalem, God said something out of the ordinary. He told Nehemiah to use the burned stones. More specifically, use the stones that have been through the fire; the stones that are charred and blackened. *(The ones that had been through the fire—the ones that had been tried and tested, He said, build with those stones).

And the Ammonites mocked Nehemiah because he used the burned stones. They didn’t believe the stones would be strong enough because they were “stones from a rubbish heap – and charred ones at that.”

Have you ever heard the saying… *what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

What about the *bumper sticker—yeah but did it kill you?

Here’s what I want to say:

*dont allow it to make you bitter—allow it to make you better and the bigger person.

*you may have gone through something, but you don’t have to smell like it. (3HC)


The Ammonites didn’t think Nehemiah should have built with those stones, but God said, “That’s the exact kind of stone I want you to use.” When God wants to do something, He doesn’t always look for the “perfect” stone. He doesn’t always look for “perfect” people. He often uses people that have been through the fire. He prefers to use the stones that have been burned and charred.

Maybe you’ve been burned by the fires of life. Maybe you’ve been burned by a failure. Maybe you’ve been burned by a mistake. Maybe you’ve been burned by some business deal. Maybe you’ve been burned by someone.


You’re the stone God wants to use! The fires you’ve been through make you even more suitable to be used by God. When God wants to build something great, He looks for people that have been through the fire. It’s okay that your life isn’t perfect. You’ve been through the fire and withstood the test—God wants to build something with you.

No matter how good you are or how perfect you think you may be we are we are all human. We all have flaws and we all have imperfections. We all have those moments in our lives where we’ve been burnt by something or someone. 

The encouraging thing about this passage is that God chooses to use us in spite of ourselves. As leaders we lead and as leaders we build, and God chooses to use the things that we’ve been through to build upon. Those things that we went through that we thought would destroy us, but actually they developed us. Charred and burnt stones, but tried and tested and strong enough to build upon.

So here’s a prayer we could pray for God to build upon:

“Lord, Teach me to number my days, so that I may become wise in how I live my life.” Psalm 90:12 ERV

“Lord, our God, be kind to us. Make everything we do successful. Yes, make it all successful.” Psalm 90‬:‭17‬ ‭ERV‬‬

Amen